>>111987Yes, it is very difficult, and the consequences are clear and present for chronic misfits with abnormal upbringing. It is exhausting and demoralizing to spend your whole life being treated by many like every damn thing you do, say, think, feel, and believe is wrong or unwelcome. Common-sense counsel won't work for people who happen to be statistical outliers and that really sucks. That doesn't mean you're "less than", there's nothing wrong with you at all. That also doesn't mean you aren't stuck with disregarding most folk wisdom as largely irrelevant suggestion. Not your fault, but it's sadly your responsibility as no one's coming to save you. That is harsh, but so is life.
If you find or are given advice or instruction, ask yourself: how much is the advice-giver like myself? If "not at all", maybe do or believe the opposite. You must learn discernment, what to regard and what to discard whether through one or other glowing rectangle (even some dead blog or sub-50-followed channel of a random nobody who clearly went through what you're going through), some underrated fiction or lyrics writer who may or may not have "meant it", a religious-philosophical-whatever loudmouth from thousands of years ago (or just a handful of decades), it doesn't matter. The shape and color of the bottle is unimportant, read only the message within. But knowing what bottles to avoid or open in the first place also requires well-honed and well-oiled discernment! Whether or not you're engaging or theorizing in science to aid your situation -- which is an excellent toolset of discernment for those whose learning process is analytical, so long as one avoids the pit of dogmatic "scientism" -- consider the following cherry-picks (only the picks that apply here) from some other page that happens to be scientific approached to Buddhism by a physicist with a Ph. D, but all that's irrelevant in this thread (the message, not the bottle):
> Today, we are fortunate to have a well-established scientific method to rule out "bad theories" and focus on "good theories." ...> What is the "scientific method"?> An acceptable "theory" must have,> âą power (ability) to explain as many things that we experience in this world,Post too long. Click here to view the full text. 