>>111949>where I saw some cuties irl but didn't know how to open themThe best way to approach women, is don't. Nobody likes to be walked up to and interrupted unless they're dropping clear signs and signaling green lights. There's uncountable numbers of them that also depend on context, and you really can't rely on just one like "she touched her hair while blinking at me, she wants the d!". Attraction is art, not science. Social choreography is a skillset you can cultivate, and by the way something like autism or plain old introversion is an asset here: training trumps talent, skill surpasses instinct.
Anyway, a woman is like a cat: chase her and she'll flee. Let her come to you. With the caveat that many ARE shy and might need a little coaxing, especially if you're so cool she feels unworthy unless YOU give her some green lights by being presentable and approachable (put that damn phone down! and stop scowling, too). But nearly always you wanna attract, not chase. If she's not approaching you, you aren't interesting enough. Yes, appearance does help just like in a job interview. And it's really not that hard to be passing fashionable (unless you're truly math-brained and need to be explained why you shouldn't tuck your polo in your beltless cargo shorts, grampa) if you treat it as yet another artform like music or animu or vidya or whatever. But getting your foot in the door isn't enough if you have nothing about you interesting enough to back it up.
How do you become interesting, though? An interestING person, is an interestED person. That is, interested in the world around them with plenty to talk about, passionate about their projects and self-improvement, and so on. The more you focus on yourself, the more she'll focus on you, too. And the more you improve, the less weak and "nice guy" you'll be. You don't want to be weak (and women are VERY GOOD at sniffing out fakes, it's easier to become the cool dude than to be a geek playing pretend-alpha AKA a pickup artist), because every woman already has a vagina that's a major pain to put up with and clean up after, she doesn't need a second weepy hole whose moods are tied to the tides of life. Women HATE harmless men, but love the peaceful protectors she can rely on. As one woman put it: "I don't need you to murder anyone, I just need to know you can!"
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